Mastering First Dates
Your Step-by-Step Guide to Winning at First Dates
How I mastered first dates
After ups and downs in my dating life, I eventually found myself in an open relationship. I had just moved from Oslo to San Francisco, and Tinder had recently launched. When I discovered dating apps, I was hooked. After about a year of tinkering on my profile, I managed to get dates regularly. Given I was in an open relationship, I limited myself to going out with one woman per week, which means that during these first two years on dating apps, I racked up about 100 first dates. I have had countless more first dates since then. I can now convert about half of my first dates to whatever I want: a one-night stand, a committed relationship, or anything in between. Whatever your goal or experience level, this book contains what you need to master your first dates.
Afraid of messing it up
Getting first dates is quite difficult for most men. How many first dates did you have this year? Most guys have fewer than 10. It’s so frustrating to spend all that effort to secure a date, only to mess it up by doing or saying the wrong thing. While it’s pleasant to believe that the right woman will accept all our flaws, the reality is that on a first date, she doesn’t know you very well. She is trying to figure out if you’re someone she sees a future with, or if she feels safe enough with you to get intimate. This nervous hesitation most women experience on first dates means that any small mistake can make you seem like a much worse version of yourself.
Get results faster
While we all have to fail to learn, it’s painful to fail a lot with so few first-date opportunities. This is why I wrote this book—so you can skip ahead and learn from my countless dates without making all the mistakes I did. It’s like your brain gets upgraded with the experience of a pro, without having to endure all the painful trial and error yourself. Sure, you'll still have to face some failures on your own; there’s no getting around this. But you will avoid many mistakes. This increases the chances that any first date you go on leads to your desired outcome.
Good & bad advice
There’s a lot of dating advice out there, and acquaintances, friends, family members, and online strangers are often eager to share their thoughts. I learned a lot from such sources, but the advice was usually a mixed bag when applied in the real world. Half the advice worked wonders, while the other half made things worse. As someone completely new to dating, it was almost impossible to discern the good advice from the bad.
How this advice differs
This book cuts through clichés like 'Be yourself' and 'Just have fun,' providing specific guidance on what to do and say on a first date. I examine the advantages and pitfalls of different dating activities and highlight the best topics for conversation and those to avoid. For those interested, I explain how to approach physical intimacy respectfully and consensually. Additionally, I offer science-based techniques to alleviate first-date anxiety, enhance social confidence, and speed up your learning. The book also includes strategies to increase the likelihood of a second date. I tested most advice out there, so you don’t have to. This book contains only what has worked for me in the real world.
One insight can make all the difference
It’s normal for most of us to invest in our appearance and education. A haircut might cost about $20, and a college degree can total around $150,000 over four years. When you’re out getting lunch, you might spend $15, and a date could cost you about $30. However, considering that many people go on numerous unsuccessful dates, these expenses can add up quickly. For instance, it took me about 50 first dates, costing a total of approximately $1,000, to gain some proficiency in dating.
Lunch price, lasting insights
For the price of one lunch, you can purchase this book and gain access to all its insights. It's a small but potentially life-changing investment in your dating life. Even if you only get a single insight from this book, that one insight could significantly enhance your dating success.
Happy or your money back
If you have any hesitation regarding this investment, I have you covered. While this is a risk to my business model, I believe strongly that our advertising is honest, and that you will receive real value in any product I offer. Anyone who invests in this book will therefore receive a special guarantee:
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